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Support for men accused of sexual assault.


John's Story: I'm a 29 year old male. I grew up in the twin cities of Minnesota. Six years ago, I moved an hour north to a small-town country style city to get away from an ever worsening crime-ridden city life. I can't stress enough the weird breed of people and lifestyle I found here. If you haven't lived in the small town your whole life, they don't like you and don't want you here. No outsiders. Two years ago, this weird cult-like place could not have put me in my place more!

I met a woman off the Internet who happened to live in my small town. She came over one night and we had sex. She never said NO. She never acted weird. She never gave any indication of feeling nervous or unsafe. She was 18--which is young, but by no means a crime.

I dropped her and came home to go to bed. The next thing I know, my doors are getting kicked in. I am on my way to jail. I've been out on bail for two years now. I have a great lawyer, but I have to tell you so many things come into play. I'm getting screwed over.

It wasn't until I got released that I was allowed to read her "alleged victims statement." There are more holes in her story than a block of Swiss cheese. My lawyer has never read anything more ridiculous. He told me that if this had happened in the busy cities, 911 operators would have laughed at her when she called them. But out here in the Styx, nothing exciting happens, so boy did they get to get there rocks off at my expense. She even says in her statement that she asked me to put a condom on.

Now, here is the real kicker. My father is a highly respected sergeant of 25 years for a neighboring county, a former US Marshall, and a sniper for the SWAT Team. For whatever reason, the police department does not like the police department where my dad worked. The sheriff is crooked out here; he has been proven so by the news and has lost court cases for falsifying reports against fellow officers who run against him for Sherriff. This is a clear attempt to slander them so he can keep his job.

My lawyer has friends that are former prosecutors in my county. They told him that my case was only charged because of extreme political pressure, meaning the crooked police department here wanted to stick it to my dad once again, at my expense.

This Monday, I'm facing judgment day. I can take a deal. They are offering 5th-degree gross misdemeanor csc and 2 years probation. As terms of my release on bail they've had me on probation for two years without being convicted. This is a severe violation of my constitutional rights.

Taking the deal will wreck my chances of a good job forever but eliminates the possibility of prison. Alternatively, I can go to trial and let my fate rest in the hands of a jury full of this weird breed of people, and hope for the best. If I lose, I'll get (at the least) a minimum of 3 years in prison for doing nothing wrong.

What would you pick? I cant begin to tell you the hell the last two years of my life have been. I've had nightmares of getting killed by these crooked police. It has been the first thing that pops into my head every morning when I wake up... for two years. Not a day goes by that I don't obsess over why this happened to me. How could this happen? What's going to happen to me? Why did it happen? How can this "alleged victim" sleep at night at the expense of demolishing a man's life? I am literally a shell of a man right now.

When I was seven years old, I went on my first police ride-a-long with my dad. And many since. I've seen first-hand the criminal element. I've always know that it's not how I would ever choose to live my life. I'm almost thirty years old. Previously, I had never been arrested. I didn't just wake up one day and say, "I want to be a criminal." I've respected the law more than most people ever will, due in part to my dad.

This heinous thing they are trying to do me -- it's just not me. This town. This lying, life-wrecking "alleged victim" basically murdered me two years ago. I'm no longer the happy, care free person I once was. They could drop the case or even find me Not Guilty, but ill never be the same. I'm forever scarred by this. Anything you could do to expose them would be immensely appreciated. I can put into words how much I would appreciate your support. I've pretty much lost faith in this country, its system, and human-kind. I just want my soul and good name back.

Respectfully yours,

John

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